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He wants me to meet his random Facebook ‘friends’

Dear Amy: Do you think it’s normal (or wise) to meet your Facebook friends?

My husband arranged dinner with a “friend” he had met on Facebook through one of his news sites. He’s not happy that I didn’t want to go with him.

He arranged another dinner with someone he said was a member of his college fraternity. I attended this dinner only to find out they didn’t know each other personally!

My “friends” on Facebook are people I know, and even though I haven’t seen them in years, I enjoy their news about family and their activities.

Randomly collecting friends with whom you have no personal background seems desperate and unwise.

Worried woman

Dear data subject: Any time you make personal contact with a ‘stranger’ there is a risk involved, but in my opinion meeting people you have met online is a natural and positive impulse. I’ve done it so many times.

Meeting someone who was in your fraternity in college is not a “random” meeting. This is connecting personally with someone with whom you already share some real-world similarities.

This is neither desperate nor unwise. It’s basically old-school “networking.”

Dear Amy: Two sisters in our extended family are in a broken relationship.

When they were young, their parents brought in foster children. The eldest foster child was a boy in his early teens. He started sexually assaulting the younger sister, who was 8.

The abuse lasted at least four years. No one in the family knew about it. The young sister was threatened not to tell anyone.

Fast forward 20 years. The abuse was revealed and the older sister told everyone to forgive the predator. She chose to keep him in her life, like a brother.

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The victim no longer trusted her sister and their relationship was never the same again.

Now the older sister feels rejected by the family because of her constant support for the predator. She still feels that forgiving the predator was the best course of action, and she cannot comprehend the depth of her younger sister’s pain.

Sixty years have passed and the whole family is still clouded by this infidelity.

The older sister feels like she’s a victim, because of the palpable rejection she feels from everyone else in the family.

After all this time, is there hope that trust can be restored? How are they supposed to make it up?

They are all seniors now and they could both greatly benefit from each other’s company and love.

Your advice?

Broken family



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